Updated: May 16
Are you ready to continue your Heartfelt Journey to Self-Love part 2 - Self -Acceptance?
How did you go with #1 - Self-Awareness & Self-Honesty? Did you discover who you are and who you are not? Or maybe even who you are now, but who you would like to become? How you would like to show up in the world?
We can change and adapt ourselves over and over again. We don't have to be static. As you grow your self-love and nurture yourself more, you will find you certainly will change from who you are today.
Image - Paige Cody
Are you ready to dive into your Self- Acceptance?
What is Self-Acceptance?
The choice to unconditionally like who you are, without exception, judgement or wishing you where someone other than you. You consistently acknowledge yourself for being imperfectly perfect.
Do you like yourself – really, genuinely like yourself for exactly who you are? Do you like the way you interact with the world around you? Like how you move through life as a Divine Spirit having a Human experience?
If your answer is not a “ Yes, of course, I adore and appreciate who I am!” – then this Heartfelt Journey is for you. You are the only person that has the power to offer you total and utter deep Self-Acceptance. I'm sure many, if not all of the people in your life accept you for exactly who you are.....now it's time you see yourself from their perspective.
Just as you give appreciation, acknowledgment, adoration, and affection to others, you must also give this same kind of love to yourself.
How amazing would it be if you directed this mighty love power to all the places inside you and qualities about you that you don’t like, haven’t liked, or have even hated? The places that you take for granted, don’t value much, or have forgotten about?
What would happen to the self-judgment, self-neglect, and self-hatred that have been affecting your self-love, and your heart and soul, if you applied love to a less-than-perfect you? If you remembered to tell yourself how much you appreciated and adored the unique being of divine love you are?
I will tell you what would happen…. This self-directed and self-generated unconditional love would instantly transform your downer vibes, such as shame, hate, disgust, fear, regret, and wishful thinking, into a feeling of being loved and accepted.
How does this happen? By powerfully turning you away from the mirror you’ve been using to judge, compare, and abuse yourself in response to external standards – the ones that lead you to feel you continually fall short – and turning you toward unconditional self-acceptance instead.
It’s time for your Self-Acceptance activity….
Daring Act of Love
Love the Part of Yourself That Is Hardest to Love
Choose one part or piece of yourself that you dislike the most. This is the body part, quality, or truth about yourself that you find the hardest to be with. The one you obsess about the most. Complain and compare the most. Hate on the most. Your daring act of love is to spend the next seven days loving that part of you – applying appreciation, adoration, acknowledgment, and affection.
Each morning after showering or brushing your teeth, look at that part in the mirror – if it’s a body part – and beam a series of “I love you’s” at it. Rub lotion, oil, or love into it while repeating the same words. Meditate for at least three minutes daily and imagine it being filled with, wrapped in, or wiped clean with pink love, Feel the energy of accepting it as a mother would accept her child unconditionally.
If it’s a quality or truth about yourself, then each morning after showering or brushing your teeth, look in the mirror and beam into your eyes these words: “I love you for exactly who you are. I love you because you are //insert a statement that is a positive aspect of yourself//.
Spend at least three minutes of quiet time, eyes closed, imagining your heart filling up with pink love in the places that you formerly despised. Then throughout the day, practice shifting from hate to love in the moment, At the end of seven days- mark this date on your calendar – ask yourself – “What do I notice about the pieces of and places in me that have been hard to love?”. Remember, awareness is the first step to making shifts. See if you can move to reflection by asking yourself, “What action could I take in the moment to accept myself when this comes up for me?” Take note of this and use it to change hate to love in the moment when disgust, dislike, judgment, or hate for yourself next shows up.
Get your drawing materials out when you have time. Sit with yourself for a few minutes, thinking about a part of you that you don’t like. It could be a body part or an aspect of your personality. Try and draw it in a way that will help you love yourself for whatever is there.
Draw a picture of what ever that is for you. (It doesn’t have to be perfect, remember this is your art and no one else has to see it). Just let yourself allow what ever to come up for you and intuitively create.
Focus on the thoughts and emotions that come on as you do this, no judgment – just allow them to be. May you come to love every aspect of you – you are enough, and you are perfect exactly as you are. x
How did that feel for you? You are on your way to building more Self-Love. I look forward to sharing the next branch with you next time. In the meantime, I invite you to journal what thoughts come up for you, process things and most of all be kind to yourself.
Until next time, enjoy this Journey and try to love yourself abundantly.
Much Love Cath xx